Be courageous when reason fails you be courageousZbigniew Herbert
in the final reckoning it is the only thing that counts.
Who hasn’t wished they could communicate themselves more clearly?
Whether shyness, anxiety, lack of vocabulary or language, lack of knowledge, lack of confidence… there are hundreds of influences that may impede one’s ability to communicate. Yet, throughout the centuries, communication has been a primary factor for humanistic and societal development. The best communicators tend to be those who flourish, whether in the micro-scale as community organizers or on the macro-scale as influential thinkers and leaders.
A personal communicative bane is that I have a profound passion for poetry. I’ve read thousands of books of poems at this point, and still there are certainly hundreds of thousands that I’ve yet to encounter. A conversation with another passionate reader may reveal that we don’t even have a single overlap of encountered works, and yet we bash on, stumbling into relationships and joys. For those without the readerly proclivity to poetry, it has felt like I’ve needed to restrict such a massive part of me in order to have any form of conversation.
Latent in these examples are a few questions: How do we communicate more effectively? How do we speak about the things we love without alienating others from them? What can clearer communication unlock for us? And how do we know when we’ve discovered a new communicative challenge to overcome? Through some guidance, I’m hoping to offer a discussion of the personal strengths and weaknesses of communication and how to embrace a more communicative outlook.
The Snowball in Strengths of Communication
When communication is clear and honest, each party involved can feel more justifiably rewarded in their dialogues. Easy to say, though.
The imagination is always particularly beneficial in these types of situations. Imagine: you meet someone new – a complete stranger – and have a wonderful chat about each others’ passions and hobbies, the emotional interest in why each party is where they are (‘I’m at this park because, strangely, even though it is so busy, I feel anonymous enough to be secure and comfortable’). It takes seven minutes, and then you two each go about the rest of your day. Personally, I’d be glowing being able to form that type of a bond with someone on such an impromptu basis. And this is communication!
A lot of the keys to communication are going to involve being able to adequately trust that whatever you discuss and divulge isn’t a piece of information that is so vulnerable that even in acknowledging it to the world you run the risk of facing a fundamental cataclysm. To go back to my example of poetry – poetry is, in many ways, my lifeblood; however, I can also recognize that when people do not care much about poetry, this is not a personal attack, or their rejection is not something that compromises me. There is a distancing between the ways in which poetry holds me up, and the ways in which I talk about poetry.
When he says perhapsSamira Negrouche
give your doubt back its soul.
This is to say: strengths in communication are a snowballing trait; that feeling comfortable and confident in your communicative capabilities yield scenarios that encourage positive interactions and feelings, and therefore encourage your confidence and comfort in communication further in the future.
Weaknesses of Communication: Tactics and Resolutions
When concerns over our ability to communicate to arise, they typically come from situations where we feel we didn’t express what we truly intended clearly. The first thing to understand is: that’s perfectly fine. People write entire books without saying what they meant to say. The illusion between what we meant to say and what we said affects us all.
But these eyes are experienced in illusion. If they embrace you again elsewhere, another road like this one will spring into being, where, in the same way, the shadow of your hair, your arms swinging, will journey forth.
The gauze of words left unspoken hangs between one line and another, neither of us will mention our promises. Nothing will be said of loyalty of faithlessness.Faiz Ahmad Faiz
After we get past this moment of challenge, then the question becomes: how do we improve our communication skills? Analyze yourself after speaking to determine, ‘Did I say what I meant to say? Did I hide anything? Why did I withhold what I did? Would I have withheld that with someone else?’ Making a habit out of introspecting after your conversations can become particularly meaningful as you continue to work toward improving your communication.
Other than that, trying to resolve yourself to honesty in your discussions can be difficult. I like to think of it this way: at the end of the day, my withholdings and my restraints mostly harm myself, and don’t save others from harm or discomfort – at best they typically give others a neutral response. And if we go back to our imaginative capacity: wouldn’t less restraint in our personal interests and idiosyncrasies yield more opportunity for genuine pleasure and engagement in the rest of our world?
Interpersonal Communication Strengths and Weaknesses
If you have been reading me for any period of time, many of my suggestions get repeated in different iterations: value the intuition, distinguish associations, and uphold emotional integrity. These ring true in interpersonal communication strengths and weaknesses too – your intuition will tell you when and how to discuss passions of yours; associations make for wonderful conversations even if they’re impromptu or feel awkward in that you are literally saying, “that makes me think of <x>;” and emotional integrity will ensure that, no matter, you are being authentic to yourself and will not feel shame in that regard.
Communication is a skill that affects us in every aspect of our days: work, social, and private times (as communication with self is just as much of an important feat as communication with others). Why not try to encourage better communicative habits?
You might even get to understand communication with a type of awe. If you’re enjoying these discussions and wish to envelop yourself in a continued form of emotional and associative improvement, or self discovery, my Espials are personally catered independent lessons for complicating and expanding our understandings of some of these core concepts.
As always, if you have anything you’d like to hear more about or discuss, contact me.